28 Apr Barbara Moore – She is embracing her journey
We love this next woman and her ability to look within. She epitomizes self-love, grace and acceptance, and is truly an inspiration to women everywhere! Meet Barbara Moore – She is embracing her journey!
“I’ve never seen any life transformation that didn’t begin with the person in question finally getting tired of their own bullshit.” – Elizabeth Gilbert
“As women, I believe we go through many changes that we aren’t paying attention to. We are the nurturers, caregivers, and most awesome multi-taskers – because let’s face it, there is a lot to keep moving forward on a daily basis. The one thing we neglect the most – you guessed it – OURSELVES. It’s so counter intuitive!
By the time we realize “Oh shit! Who am I?” – we can be so far down the rabbit hole. And then what?? Climb out, ignore it, pretend all is right??
For me, this happened when I was 59. I had just signed my divorce papers – had worked with my ex throughout our marriage and 7 years of separation. One month after we signed the papers, I knew working together was never going to work – so… I shut my computer down and walked out.
No job, no man (even a dysfunctional relationship can be better than nothing – not!!), no direction – oh shit! That’s just too much to deal with. In that moment, I knew that although I have 5 adult children, they couldn’t be my emotional lifeline. So, I cut the invisible cord and went and sat in my meditation space. I gave myself a year to wallow, with a couple of exceptions: I went to beautiful Bali, and after 15 years of being a devoted yoga student, I decided to get my teacher certification. I needed some direction; and although I didn’t have any intention of becoming a yoga teacher, it was a good way to be held accountable and remain grounded. Honestly, all I wanted to do was crawl into a cave.
As I sat and reflected on ‘Who am I?’ and ‘What do I want my life to look like?’, I can honestly say, I HAD NO IDEA! Scary, right? I’d spent my entire life doing and being for others. A dutiful daughter (avoid causing problems at all costs), a wife 3 different times, an ex-wife, a business partner, and most importantly, a mother. Let’s face it, we can spend our entire lives living as the mom.
Even though I didn’t know who and what to be, I knew what I didn’t want to be; and living vicariously through my kids was a pitfall I choose to avoid. I knew I wanted my own fulfilled life, healthy relationships with my kids, and I wanted them to be proud of me and not feel sorry for me.
Who is Barbara? She is a work in progress. I am honoring the woman I am with all my bumps and bruises. Uncovering layer by layer, to get to the pearl buried deep. All of my experiences have contributed to the woman I AM today. All the good, the bad, the ugly and the beautiful.
What I know for sure:
- I love being a mom and will always be a mom. If and when they need me, I’ll be there.
- If I don’t live my life, before I know it, it will be over. The years fly by and I choose not to waste them.
- I embrace where I am and where I am going. I will patiently unearth the pearl buried inside – bringing forth my radiance, essence, and inner beauty – every day. I will live my full expression of WHO I AM.
This is not just my story – this is every woman’s story. The names and circumstances change, but the crossroads are there for us all. Life is a journey and I believe the journey never ends. And the best is yet to come.”
Barbara is one of the fabulous women we’re featuring in our Everything She Is series. We’d love to feature YOU too! Email firstname.lastname@example.org with your “She Is” story (i.e. She Is Following Her Dream, She Is a Rock Climber, etc.) along with your favorite pic. Submissions can be anywhere from 400-800 words. We can’t wait to get to know more of you, and to share your stories!
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